{"id":5446,"date":"2011-10-31T16:30:56","date_gmt":"2011-10-31T16:30:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.stroke4carers.org\/?p=5446"},"modified":"2015-06-12T16:18:57","modified_gmt":"2015-06-12T15:18:57","slug":"personality-changes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.stroke4carers.org\/?p=5446","title":{"rendered":"Personality changes"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><div id=\"jwplayer-1-div\" class=\"STARS\">\n<div id=\"jwplayer-1\"><\/div>\n<script type='text\/javascript'>\n                    function addLoadEvent1(func) {\n                      var oldonload = window.onload;\n                      if (typeof window.onload != 'function') {\n                        window.onload = func\n                      } else {\n                        window.onload = function() {\n                          if (oldonload) {\n                            oldonload()\n                          }\n                          func()\n                        }\n                      }\n                    }\n\n                    function ping1() {\n                      var ping = new Image();\n                      ping.src = 'http:\/\/i.n.jwpltx.com\/v1\/wordpress\/ping.gif?e=features&s=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.stroke4carers.org&controlbar=bottom&dock=false&autostart=false&height=294&width=480&icons=true&item=0&playlist=_&playlistsize=180&repeat=none&shuffle=false&bufferlength=60&smoothing=false&stretching=uniform&mute=false&volume=90&screencolor=990066&provider=video&mediaid=5448&image=%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2Fvid_personality_changes.jpg&file=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.stroke4carers.org%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2FPERSONALITY_CHANGE.mp4&title=PERSONALITY_CHANGE&creator=&author=&date=2011-10-31+16%3A32%3A57&description=&modes=_';\n                    }\n\n                    addLoadEvent1(ping1);\n                  <\/script><\/div>\n<script type='text\/javascript'>jwplayer('jwplayer-1').setup({\"flashplayer\":\"https:\/\/www.stroke4carers.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/jw-player-plugin-for-wordpress\/player\/player.swf\",\"width\":\"480\",\"height\":\"294\",\"controlbar\":\"bottom\",\"dock\":\"false\",\"autostart\":\"false\",\"icons\":\"true\",\"item\":\"0\",\"playlist\":\"none\",\"playlistsize\":\"180\",\"repeat\":\"none\",\"shuffle\":\"false\",\"bufferlength\":\"60\",\"smoothing\":\"false\",\"stretching\":\"uniform\",\"mute\":\"false\",\"volume\":\"90\",\"screencolor\":\"990066\",\"provider\":\"video\",\"mediaid\":\"5448\",\"image\":\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/vid_personality_changes.jpg\",\"file\":\"https:\/\/www.stroke4carers.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/PERSONALITY_CHANGE.mp4\",\"title\":\"PERSONALITY_CHANGE\",\"creator\":\"\",\"author\":\"\",\"date\":\"2011-10-31 16:32:57\",\"description\":\"\",\"modes\":[{\"type\":\"flash\",\"src\":\"https:\/\/www.stroke4carers.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/jw-player-plugin-for-wordpress\/player\/player.swf\"},{\"type\":\"html5\",\"config\":{\"streamer\":\"\",\"provider\":\"\"}},{\"type\":\"download\",\"config\":{\"streamer\":\"\",\"provider\":\"\"}}]});<\/script><\/p>\n<p><b>Video running time:<\/b> 07.11 minutes. The film may take time to download depending on your broadband speed.<br \/>To enlarge to full screen click on the arrows at the bottom right of the frame.<\/p>\n<p>If you are having problems playing the video, <a href=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/PERSONALITY_CHANGE.mp4\" onMouseUp=\"_gaq.push(['_trackEvent', 'Videos', 'Download', 'Personality changes']);\">download the clip here [.mp4, 28.2 MB]<\/a> (Right click this link, and \u201cSave As\u201d).<\/p>\n<div id=\"accordion\" class=\"textAlt\">\n<p class=\"expand\"><a href=\"#\">View Voice Over Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n<div class=\"expand\">\n<p>This film you will see Frank and Pauline talking honestly about their experience of personality change after a stroke and how they each coped with this problem. Frank was also affected by aphasia, a speech and language problem.<\/p>\n<p>Question: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cSo what was the turning point for both of you?\u201d \u201cDid that happen at the same time or different times?\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Pauline: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cWe had one major row didn\u2019t we?\u201d \u201cThere was a time that we sort of\u2026we weren\u2019t coping with it at all.\u201d <\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Frank: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cIt was bad because I couldn\u2019t understand Pauline, Pauline couldn\u2019t understand me and it was\u2026.\u201d \u201cAnd my personality had changed, that was probably the major thing.\u201d \u201cMy personality.\u201d \u201cI\u2019d like to think the people watching here is gonna get a sense of me being able to\u2026what I was like, I was funny.\u201d \u201cI enjoyed myself.\u201d \u201cI enjoyed life.\u201d \u201cI made myself happy because other people were happy.\u201d \u201cI could make them smile.\u201d \u201cI changed from that person to an angry, angry, really angry person.\u201d \u201cI couldn\u2019t \u2026I didn\u2019t care.\u201d <\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Pauline: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cYou went paranoid.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Frank: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cI hated everybody and everything because something had stopped me.\u201d \u201cAs I explain, I didn\u2019t believe in the film that Jeckle and Hyde.\u201d \u201cI know now everyone has got a Jeckle and Hyde inside them and the stroke actually caused that.\u201d <\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Question: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cIs it worse when you get tired?\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Frank: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cWhen you\u2019re tired, when you get frustrated.\u201d \u201cIt does, tiredness makes a difference.\u201d \u201cBut, I would, at this time, it\u2019s communication that does me in because\u2026\u201d \u201cTiredness, I can have a quick sleep, I could drop asleep quite easily.\u201d \u201cHave a ten minute break, and that, I\u2019m happy with that.\u201d \u201cBut when I\u2019m trying to communicate something and my brain\u2026\u201d \u201cI can speak just now because it\u2019s reasonably easy to communicate.\u201d \u201cBut if I was to start losing the plot, the whole part of my brain will just switch off and I\u2019ll get angry.\u201d \u201cAt myself, no with anybody else.\u201d \u201cI wouldn\u2019t fall out with you\u2019s or, it would just be my brains no working and I want to be, and that\u2019s when everything speeds up.\u201d <\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Pauline:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p> \u201cThat\u2019s when you have to calm down.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Frank: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cAnd Pauline is good at reminding me to calm down.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Pauline: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cTo be quite honest we laugh a lot about it now.\u201d \u201cAt first there was a lot of tears, a lot of heartache and coming to terms with it was really hard.\u201d \u201cBut basically now we laugh an awful lot about it because it\u2019s our way of dealing with it.\u201d \u201cIf he\u2019s gonna get it wrong, he\u2019s gonna get it wrong.\u201d \u201cIf it\u2019s just between me, him and Connor and he gets the words wrong, who really cares?\u201d <\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Frank: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cBelieve in the person that was there, is still there.\u201d \u201cBecause if you lose focus on yourself, there\u2019s nothing to come back with.\u201d \u201cYou have to believe in yourself and you will get better.\u201d<br \/>\n\u201cIf you can focus on yourself and be the person you were, you\u2019ve got a chance of winning.\u201d \u201cAnd that is important.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Pauline: \u201c<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>To have a lot of patience or to try and have a lot of patience.\u201d \u201cThere\u2019s gonna be times when you really haven\u2019t got it and it\u2019s gonna make you angry and you are gonna feel guilty for that anger.\u201d \u201cDon\u2019t &#8211; because it\u2019s part of it all.\u201d \u201cThe anger has to be there, I think, because that\u2019s the only way you\u2019re gonna deal with it.\u201d \u201cYou have to deal with that anger because you are annoyed that this has happened and you\u2019ve then suddenly thrown into a world that you haven\u2019t got a clue what\u2019s going on.\u201d \u201cSo yes you\u2019re angry with the system.\u201d \u201cYou\u2019re angry with the person for having the stroke because they have just turned your world completely upside down.\u201d \u201cThere have been times when I\u2019ve sat or got up really early in the morning just to sit and have a cup of coffee.\u201d \u201cSo that you\u2019re not getting that sort of stage in your head that I don\u2019t need this.\u201d \u201cI\u2019d sit there and have a cup of coffee and I\u2019d be waiting for him to get up and dread him waking up in the morning.\u201d \u201cBecause you know the minute he gets out of bed that\u2019s your day starting and everything you do then is focussed on one person.\u201d \u201cIt\u2019s not focussed on you, it\u2019s not focussed on the children.\u201d \u201cIt\u2019s focussed on the person who\u2019s had the stroke all the time.\u201d \u201cAnd there\u2019s just times when you don\u2019t want that.\u201d \u201cYou just want to run, you just want to just go but you\u2019ll get through it and it is a case of getting through it each day.\u201d \u201cAnd everyday is harder but then eventually you just come to a point where you go you know what, I\u2019ve had enough of being upset.\u201d \u201cI\u2019ve had enough of letting this control me.\u201d \u201cI\u2019m gonna take back my control and laugh.\u201d \u201cAnd once you can laugh about it , it\u2019s a lot easier to cope with.\u201d \u201cAnd there are times when we do just have a laugh and if he gets it wrong, he gets it wrong and I don\u2019t care anymore.\u201d \u201cI don\u2019t have a go at him because he\u2019s got a word wrong or he dropped a cup.\u201d \u201cSo what\u201d \u201cYou can buy another cup.\u201d \u201cThe words don\u2019t matter, it\u2019s just being there, I think.\u201d <\/p><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cThe last few months have got a lot easier because as we said at the beginning, he was very Jeckle and Hyde.\u201d \u201cIt was like living with a complete and utter stranger.\u201d \u201cI\u2019ve been with Frank ten years, been married three and I\u2019ve known a very sweet, loving person all my life or the whole ten years we\u2019ve been together, up until nine months ago.\u201d \u201cWhen I didn\u2019t know who I was living with and it was&#8230;\u201d \u201cI\u2019d suddenly become looking after someone I didn\u2019t like.\u201d \u201cBecause I didn\u2019t want him around.\u201d \u201cI didn\u2019t want to know, but it was a case of you\u2019re married to this person and you have to deal with it.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<blockquote><p> \u201cSo yeah it was\u2026\u201d \u201cThere were times I looked at him and I don\u2019t know if this is what you want to hear or what anybody wants to hear but there was times I wished, and I shouted at God.\u201d \u201cI shouted at his God because as far as I was concerned this was evil.\u201d \u201cWhy do this , why not just take him altogether?\u201d \u201cThis was harder to deal with.\u201d \u201cIf he\u2019d just been taken, I could have dealt with that a lot easier then dealing with this.\u201d \u201cAnd that\u2019s about it really.\u201d \u201cBut yeah it has got easier, yeah.\u201d\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Video running time: 07.11 minutes. 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